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Friday, November 18, 2011

November is Difficult

November is difficult.  On the 20th, we would have been married for 12 years.  We never really celebrated our anniversary.  We had been together about 3 years prior to the wedding and we just considered the date a mile marker of sorts.  It was something to make note of; a point of reference.

I remember our 10th anniversary.  That morning, my husband and I had gone over to my Mom's house to help her out with a couple of things.  My phone rang.

Me:  "Hello?"

Daughter:  "Happy Anniversary!"

Me:  "Anniversary of what?"

Daughter:  *sighs* "You're wedding?"

Me:  "Oh...thanks."

Daughter:  *rolls eyes* (I can hear that through the phone, being that I'm a mom) "Whatever.  I'll see you when you get home."

Me:  "Okay, bye sweetie."

*Husband walks into room*

Me:  "Guess what?  B______ just called to say happy anniversary."

Husband:  "Anniversary of what?"

The memory of that conversation always leaves me with a smile.  I find myself clinging to each and every memory but this memory, ironically a memory of forgetfulness, this one I store safely at the center of my heart. 

Why?  Because I suspect I won't ever forget that date again. 

20 comments:

  1. ((hugs)).
    I can't imagine how you must feel.
    I don't know if it makes a difference to know that people (strangers on the internet!!) really do care.

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  2. @ Ami...I'll take all the virtual hugs I can get

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  3. I always have to remind Hubby, but then he has the excuse of short term memory loss. :)

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  4. I'm glad you've gotten to the point where you can shasre your grief. We're all here for you whenever you need someone to listen.

    *hugs*

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  5. I didn't realise Nari.. I am so very sorry. (huge Hugs)

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  6. I'm sending some virtual hugs your way too.

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  7. Dear Nari, I'm giving you a cyber hug, right now. I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your memories such as these will continue to bring smiles to your face. Thank you for sharing.

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  8. (((HUGS)))

    Blog hugs spread faster than viruses through the computer. Did you know that? :)

    I remember last year, I asked my parents if they wanted to do something the next night to celebrate. Said they could come down for dinner. They both said "celerate what?"

    "Um. You're 39th anniversary."

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  9. Sending you another virtual hug and a case of wine. :~) Hopefully one day soon I will meet my bloggy friends that have always been there for me. What a great meetup that would be. Then I will make up for all the virtual hugs. Does this make sense? xox

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  10. @ everyone...I am overwhelmed by all the hugs. Virtual or not, they feel great during these cold and lonely times. Thanks so much.

    @ Nubian...it makes perfect sense, at least it did when I finished off that wine.

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  11. Nari,if this is ever my fate, I imagine,I'd be clinging to every memory and all sorts of anniversarys.
    We note the number of years but that's about it here.
    (((((((big hug)))))))

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  12. @ IWBY...I pray with all my heart that you never have to do more than imagine.

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  13. I hope December treats you better. Hugs!

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  14. Just wanted to check in and let you know I am thinking of you. Hope life is a titch better. xox

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  15. Hullo friend, hope your Sunday is relaxing and quiet. Hugs. xox

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  16. Hi, Just wanted to say hello. Wishing you a happy holidays! Hope you're doing well! ~Sandra

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  17. It's the end of December. Just hoping you're doing OK and that you had a wonderful Christmas with your girls. :) -J

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  18. Nari-mantis, your post didn't update.
    Joining in on the virtual group hug.
    Hope you're alright and wish you the best in the new year.

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  19. Hey. Just me, checking in. Hope you're doing better.

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  20. I am late in dropping by as have been through my own traumas lately and am a bit battered and bruised. But I really liked being able to share your memory and I send you lots of virtual hugs and good vibes and hope you are hanging in there.

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